Holier than Thou?

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Permalink Reply by Philip on December 27, 2007 at 11:39pm

either that... or I start throwing julienned carrot sticks at them... : P

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Permalink Reply by Charles on December 26, 2007 at 1:54am

My mom told me earlier today that I'll come to my senses one day about my diet and realize that I've been completely wrong. She thinks I've taken things way too far and that I'll probably endanger any kids I might have one day (because they won't get enough calcium, protein, blah blah blah).

So, yeah, this is gonna be a freakin' work-in-progress with her.

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Permalink Reply by RawTastic! on December 26, 2007 at 5:20am

I'm sorry to hear that! You're not sick are you? And you're probably healthier than anyone she knows so what;s the problem? She probably feels like you're rejecting her when that isn't the case at all. I would explain this to her and then politely ask her to not bring up the subject again. The comment about the kids is really a low blow and completely unnecessary. It sounds like she brought this up over the holidays too and I don;t understand why people have to say hurtful things over the holidays- it seems particularily seflish and rude to me.

You could also explain that if there were a world-wide nuclear war you may consider eating spam if it was the last thing on the earth but for now, you choose to eat fresh! There are a lot of people out there with serious health problems who wish they had treated themselves better but for many it is too late.=) Take care! I know your 500 plus friends here understand!

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Permalink Reply by Charles on December 26, 2007 at 11:39pm

I'm not sick at all. I've never felt better. I think she was pissed off that I wasn't eating any of her cooked food. She doesn't get it that I just don't eat it anymore. Oh well. Like I said, she's gonna be a work in progress.

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Permalink Reply by Rawmaste on December 27, 2007 at 9:32pm

Won't she be surprised one day when you present her with a beautiful, strong and perfectly healthy grandchild. Touche! (=^_^=)

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Permalink Reply by Lesley Anne on December 26, 2007 at 3:20am

My Advise is to share with your family. Make them feel like they are included. If they don't like the green smoothies let them join in on something else raw and tasty like some great dessert you make. Anything foreign to anyone is always perceived as a threat in someway. You don't want to perpetuate that because really your family is way more important than food will ever be. If they ask questions just answer them honestly. You should also be really upfront with them and let them know why you drink the smoothies in the first place, tell them how great they make you feel. They will be curious and respect you for informing them as well.
Good Luck!

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Permalink Reply by Mallory Gerber on December 26, 2007 at 6:07am

I sympathize with you.
;-) sometimes I have to eat before I go.
I do sit and drink tea. One friend has trouble eating with me if I don't eat.
I don't like to be in position to have choose between staying healthy and being agreeable.
Since I started to work on my diet my friends and family say it no fun to eat with me anymore.
Hang in there!

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Permalink Reply by Rawmaste on December 27, 2007 at 9:39pm

It is unfortunate that food is such an emotional thing. However, here we are telling each other to walk gently with non-raw folks and to not push it on them. Too bad they cannot offer us the same respect with cooked food, dairy, meat, junk food, etc. Oh well. I still feel strongly about my conviction to have the freedom to chose how I wish to take care of myself, no matter what anyone says or how they feel. Funny thing is, I am never ill, and they are quite often down with one ailment or another. (=^_^=)

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Permalink Reply by Charles on December 29, 2007 at 7:21pm

I totally agree with that phrase "staying healthy vs. being agreeable." It's a battle I fight on a weekly basis.

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Permalink Reply by Rachel on December 28, 2007 at 9:27am

Every time I go home my Mom offers me ice cream. I always say, "no thanks Mom I don't eat dairy." I don't think this will ever change. I guess I'm lucky that my folks don't pay too much attention. Last Thanksgiving I brought my own food, prepared it, and ate it with my family. It had the same colors as the food they were eating and only my sisters noticed. At the end of the meal my Dad asked me if I felt tired after eating all that turkey. I just rubbed by belly and smiled. My strategy is to quietly blend in.

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Permalink Reply by RawTastic! on December 28, 2007 at 9:42am

Hi Rachel! What did you have that looked like turkey? That would be a neat trick- food that looked so real no one would notice! =)

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Permalink Reply by Rachel on December 28, 2007 at 10:42am

Sadly nothing looked like turkey on my plate - my family just doesn't pay that much attention. I think the orange and white colors sealed the deal. We also ate Thanksgiving dinner on paper plates so it was very informal and easy to blend in. Maybe there is a faux-holiday plate opportunity here that can be invented on this forum that we can all use.

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