Why are all my raw food friends single?

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Permalink Reply by rhonn1 on December 13, 2008 at 7:59pm

Interesting.
I'm not single, but in a long-enough-term relationship that we have space for whatever path is bringing the partner their chosen best possible outcome. Awkward phrasing, but my partner (now husband, but really we are in a Partnership), wants me to have the best life I can imagine, and I wish the same for him. We don't presume to know the answers for each other, so he's been wonderfully supportive as I've explored a raw food diet for myself over the past 4.5 months.

In our world, results get results. I mean, no amount of my telling The Hubby about raw food will have the effect that my becoming healthier and more vibrant has had. He's shifted to Veg from Omni over the last year, and is now at 50% raw, to my 80-95% raw vegan.

We just keep on keepin on, and we'll see where we go next in this magical and wonderful life we lead.

peas,
Rhonni

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Permalink Reply by Si Dawson on December 13, 2008 at 9:45pm

It's coz all that detoxing makes us horrible to be around!!

I kid, I kid!! (No, really, I'm kidding)

Actually, it's a very good question.

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Permalink Reply by Colleen on December 14, 2008 at 8:20pm

Im doomed right there with ya! lol. :P

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Permalink Reply by jennylens on December 17, 2008 at 1:11am

Finnegan, you are not DOOMED and good thing for the internets! Traditional relationships have been changing for a while (so many divorces), and with the net our "families" and "communities" we create being raw and online has been a RADICAL change.

The up side is I have far more friends than I ever thought possible, although most find me due to my classic punk rock photos. Although I live in Santa Monica with many raw foodies, I never connect with them. I've tried and I'm not young enough and certainly, in their minds, not hip enough.

I ONLY feel alone when I want to see old films, go to the art museum, or just talk to someone. It's hard living in a world of "Friends" and "Sex in the City" and not having pals to pal around with. Oh, people invited me out all the time to hear my punk stories, but it's always for a meal and/or drinks. How can I tell punk stories with a mouth food of hot food? And they certainly won't try a raw restaurant. What is that about, offers to take me out and then refusing to take me where I'd like to go? When I say, "let's go for a walk," that's the last I hear from them. Well, who needs them?

I am blessed so many online friends. And I MUCH rather be on my own than with others with whom I don't share interests. I just love what you wrote and wish I accepted all that when I was your age.

I keep wondering why I live in such a high-rent, expensive city when I'm so alone. I might as well live anywhere. I'd move if I had money and time. But being around so many makes it even more lonely. Then I get to work, time flies, and my days/nights are ok. Better than so many people alone, even around others, or truly by themselves, who don't have what we have. Such a great online community.

As far as the overgrown teens, this is why I don't go to rock shows, no matter who invites me. As if I really wanna be picked up by a man 20-25 years younger than I? (it happens!!) No thank you. Been there, done that. It's that old Bette Davis song, "they're either too young or too old!" LOL!

I am so busy -- how could I possibly be in a relationship? I'd just like a few pals to pal around with. But most people bore me. I'm invited to a Xmess party by a fellow Jew. I didn't come last year cos he has sooooo much food and drink, and I get bored, so I eat. He promised to have bad food. I'm going to bring a pad of paper and write if I get bored. Or look at his books, another thing I do at parties. I'll try to socialize, but every time I wanna reach for the food, I'll reach for a book! LOL!

Happy Holidaze, everyone!

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Permalink Reply by Raini on December 13, 2008 at 9:58pm

Chances are... people suck.

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Permalink Reply by Si Dawson on December 13, 2008 at 10:07pm

Not the good ones *wink*

oh, hang on. Do you mean suck-in-a-good-way, or suck-in-a-bad-way?

Coz the good ones..... oh, I'm not gonna finish this conversation, no no no. *cough*

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Permalink Reply by Colleen on December 14, 2008 at 8:20pm

O.O..... lol

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Permalink Reply by ॐ Kelly on December 13, 2008 at 10:14pm

because everyone is gearing up for ONE LOVE ;)

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Permalink Reply by Raini on December 13, 2008 at 10:21pm

Sorry, that was terribly negative sounding. Maybe it's cause were all just detoxing, engulfed in enough emotion to stear clear of the need for others emotions. Maybe it's cause making food for people is our new way of making love to people.

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Permalink Reply by elasticfate on December 14, 2008 at 10:20pm

Haha. Though I still rank sex as a human need, up there with air, water and bicycles, I still love this:

"Maybe it's cause making food for people is our new way of making love to people."

It made me smile.

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Permalink Reply by Raini on December 14, 2008 at 10:24pm

Digital smiles are digitally contagious.

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Permalink Reply by mish on December 13, 2008 at 10:28pm

Maybe most people are willing to be in the wrong relationship, stagnant and insecure.
Maybe the right one just takes longer to find when one is constantly morphing?
Gabriel Counsens is working on a book about love.

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