Has anyone else noticed that most of us who belong to GI2MR are single?!! Jade and I have been discussing this and wondering if this is because people who are into raw/veg diets are so rare to find that options are extremely limited, or is it because people into raw food just prefer to be single. Or are we too busy? Or, are most people with mates too busy to communicate on a forum like this? Worst case scenario - are raw foodies challenged in the sustainable relationship department?!! Would love to read your thoughts on this. Purely scientific research!
when you have a hard time talking is it because you think people won't really care or that they have attention deficit disorder and are already on another topic by the time you can get a word in edgewise?
How can a girl make a shy guy feel comfortable enough to open up?
Permalink Reply by Sara on January 3, 2009 at 10:00pm
It is like there is a train passing by and it's going fast there is no way in. This is what a shy person sees around them. Things are going so fast it feels impossible to jump in and take part- the tempo is different and the talking is fragmented like short-hand.
You hit the nail on the head with that one. Love it.
I was a painfully shy child. Heart in throat, panic ridden, terrified of scrutiny. Thats exactly what it feels like, a by passing train..not only is the tempo of speech different but the tempo of thought as well, or
at least it seems that way.
I would love to be in a committed monogamous relatioship, have a lovely home with plenty of babies and dogs ::))). i would love to have a happy great family. but thats all in the future. for now, i have long ways to go in the path. With all my multifarious personal choices i would love to have a partner who is as interesting as well as warm and evolved.
anyways for now i guess the path that led me to raw looks for more space and more interesting things to do in life than just settle with one guy.am happy loving. i love many and more. i have wonderful relationships which are healthy and fulfilling.love comes in many ways and if its in me, I too, would be in a great relationship where we can stay together and maybe have a family!
Harls and I met on the net- on a rawfood site too! So please don't lose faith guys...
I was posting on raw pleasure (its an australian raw site) and I noticed this dude all over the forum with this 'eat loads of fruit' advice and I was like 'Who is this crazy guy?!! and '...I can eat as much fruit as I want???!?..oh I think im in love....haha kidding but anyway he was helping me on my journal and giving me interesting advice, going against the mainstream (even in the raw commnity which got me curios) I then went to my first potluck and a girl was just eating mangoes while i woofed my raw samosa's, i quizzed her and she told me about Doug and 811, it sount great- i loved fruit, I checked it out, asked Harls questions, we got a bit closer, he said he was coming to Sydney for 'some' reason and I said 'Stay with me!' (I was thinking...haha im going to pick this guys brains....).
When I first met him I thought 'his not my type' because i was a semi-conditioned gym personal trainer and had a thing for beefheads(lovely guys ofcourse) at the time but he stayed with me and we got on really well & i learnt a lot about myself..., I loved the way he spoke from his heart and genuinely cared for people in his own style. He was lying on my bed one night and there was the possibility of a cuddle or something but it didn't eventuate, he left after about 10days and it wasn't for another 10months or so before we got together.
We went to Dougs week long nutritional science 'camp' in Byron Bay, the more I saw Harls and the more we hung together the closer we got,I had never had so much in common with someone especially the opposite sex! We spoke for hours and sometimes I thought he was just agreeing with me to be nice but he actually shared the same views on life etc... for so long I only saw Harls as a friend but when we got back to Sydney everything just clicked in place and we were together.....I ticked off all the boxes in my vision book wish list
what a lovely story freelea...i like the friendship idea along with heart stuff as its more likely to last ..i am such a romantic. a real sucker for anything romantic....that i know that getting to know someone is a good idea..ive just really learnt this since going raw..so im a virgin really ha ha !! (:
yes Freelea thats so beautfiul! YOU have an eternal love affair. The fruit Gods and Goddesses are all with you!!! MUCH LOVE. both of you have much light to share !!! It is very important to share the similar lifestyle for long term relationship to evolve.
I've met some hit chix on GITMR. Not satisfying in the least. Just the opposite. Most communication is self-defeating, accomplishes nothing. I would love it if people would leave me alone when I'm out and about. Anybody else?
Mariam, watching this raises questions: for instance, is this guy just an actor?
Seems like it. "Am I glad I went"? Well, in the sense that I knew I had to see him eventually.....I guess I got it over with (and used up my airline credit). Is he a...
"Did I meet any hot chix?" I love it~! Ha! Ha! Ha!
I've met too many of those in my life, already, many more than enough. I think I've had enough. But thanks!
also, a dr. friend told me that some of the waxy stuff can drip into your ear and do permanent damage. it does feel great, but i don't do it any longer. i've actually fallen asleep while having it done. =/
Thank you Wrenn that is what I thought too and your comments are very helpful! I think it would also be cool at $.99 for 5 TOTALLY new raw recipes and then it can be a series of them at $.99 each...thanks for your comment!