Should I go to a psychologist?

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Permalink Reply by Makaranda...=) on November 14, 2009 at 3:20pm

Hi!

Do you have to keep the pace you have set for yourself right now? I would say first off green juice fast and take some calming herbs\teas like camomile and valerian. Write about what is bothering you and give youself a chance to slow down for a few days. Maybe you just need permission to do this and get more sleep than usual at night.

That is usually what it is. But I have nothing against psychologists either. Also you could look into the fact that it may not be pschological but spiritual and in that case you may need to see a different kind of person all together..=) I hope you get through this fast!

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Permalink Reply by Danny on November 14, 2009 at 4:22pm

Thank you AU. You read my mind, I love camomile tea! I'll try to slow things down & keep a diary.

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Permalink Reply by Baby =] on November 14, 2009 at 3:21pm

Sorry for your saga, that really sucks <3. I'm a lot skeptic that a psychologist would help you.
If talk therapy was really worth it's shit and actually healed people why do people spend years and years in therapy? Not to mention what really can talking do of much help - it's just expression, honestly, get a diary and vent in there, check out Conversations with God and try getting into some good eastern philosophy like Krishnamurti - who fouces on thought dissociation and being in control of one's own find - it's good shit. Get some kind of creative outlet, like dance or kickboxing or art - really helpful and in a way helps give a purpose to the negative emotions you are feeling.
I'm sure you will get a lot of helpful suggestions, everyone here seems to be up with some kind of new age shizz that seems to help make their life a little more jammy ^^.
Or alternatively, ignore me - go see one, and see for yourself if it helps, then come back here and do what I say :P
Good luck ox

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Permalink Reply by Danny on November 14, 2009 at 4:26pm

The Krishnamurti stuff seems right up my alley. Thanks for pointing it out.

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Permalink Reply by YogaBrudder on November 14, 2009 at 3:29pm

I don't know why she called you an ox (I kid).

So much great stuff on Gitmr today, how the Hell'm I supposed to get "my work" done, fuck it.

Be careful, you could end up going for months or yeerz to someone who doesn't know who the Hell they even are.

In Europe, people don't have psychologists, I'm told, they have friends, get me? (I had a friend, she said talking made it worse, with her it sure did, for me anyways, was all we talked about, her issues. I just wanted to do her, had the chance to even.

Being angry at parents makes a lot of sense to me. I get angry a lot, too, so I understand a little. I don't even know how to fix myself, so I'm not going to give any advice. You gotta lotta passion, I admire that. Stick with that.

I've been to them off & on for years. One gave me a big price break, so that was real sweet. There are a zillion ways to deal with anger, I can tell you that. It's a matter of being at the right place/time thing.

Question: are you really doing what you want in life. Don't tell me. If you aren't, please work at that, or towards that. I think that is the issue for most folks, they refuse to let go and be in their element. And it is REAL common to get side-tracked. I'm speakin' personal, my problem all this time, so easy to just roll over and say, "it'll never happen", what i want, now I'm making the effort, feelin even more loaded.

Over and out.

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Permalink Reply by Danny on November 14, 2009 at 4:28pm

In Europe, people don't have psychologists, I'm told, they have friends, get me? (I had a friend, she said talking made it worse, with her it sure did, for me anyways, was all we talked about, her issues. I just wanted to do her, had the chance to even.

Ha ha I get that alot.

it is REAL common to get side-tracked.
You speak the truth brudder

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Permalink Reply by YogaBrudder on November 14, 2009 at 4:39pm

Ha-Ha-Ha! Yah, womyn!! Glad ya said somethin

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Permalink Reply by Rawgreengoddess on November 14, 2009 at 4:09pm

Ahh Danny,i think talking about our childhood family issues the other day bought things up for both of us...i can so relate to how you feel...its a tough one...I have been to see professionals,and talked and cried and talked and seethed...yet when my father came to stay this year 3 months ago,it was a terrible time,i felt so angry i tried to talk to him,well he puts his head in the sand...

its frustrating...i have written letters to him(As Kim suggested to me here and a couple of others) which i havent sent,and this helped a little to put it all out there and clear the air.What i really find the best for me,to cope with it all,is to keep a distance between me and my father and my family..

Do you have anyone you feel comfortable with and safe with who you can open up to?perhaps you could try to see a professional,it may help you,it could be the start of healing anyway,who knows?

Sending you love,calmness and a sense of peace to you Danny hugs xx

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Permalink Reply by Danny on November 14, 2009 at 4:32pm

Wow that's got to be tough. I think I would set myself on fire if I had to live with or near either one of my parents. I'm going to try to keep distance from them & keep a diary. Thank you for the support RGG

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Permalink Reply by YogaBrudder on November 14, 2009 at 4:40pm

Finally reconciled with my mother two years before she split the scene at the age of 95. Load off my mind.


She was tough, tough, tough, tough.

Jewish mother nagging shit, non-fucking-stop. Always fresh to her, always Hell to me.

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Permalink Reply by Roger Rawsberry on November 14, 2009 at 4:45pm

respect,yb.

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Permalink Reply by YogaBrudder on November 14, 2009 at 9:37pm

Wow, finally some respect!!

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