just a question~

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Permalink Reply by Rawzilla on November 12, 2009 at 5:36pm

Nicole,

I really like your comments.

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Permalink Reply by Rawgreengoddess on November 13, 2009 at 1:07am

Nicole,i am sorry for your miscarriages but im really happy you have 3 beautiful boys now..and with no CBH eh,well done woman X

i dont have CBH either,maybe theres something in that lol.
I bet you are just the best mum,mistakes or not,you are only human,and we all mess up from time to time...

Thank you for your encouragement,funnily enough i started this topic cos i was feeling guilty about not feeling guilty for not wanting children nor having them,silly huh?
Thank you,i do have alot of love to give,i love to help others,i do everything with passion,as much as people hurt me sometimes,i give them chance after chance,as i have been given so many chances myself,after hurting others too with crazy choices.If i can help another in some way,its a good day,whether its a hands on thing or simply showing kindness.:)

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Permalink Reply by Amanda on November 13, 2009 at 11:05pm

I've got the wide hips, but I've known ever since I've had an awareness of reproduction that children were not in my future. Why? I don't know. I can come up with intellectual reasons when pressed - I'm ambitious, have too many plans for myself, don't want the responsibility/expense/stress, life is hard why bring a living being into it, the world is overpopulated, etc. etc. - but when it comes down to it, the thought of having children just feels incredibly wrong in every cell of my body.

I think more women in the past may have felt this way too, but not a lot of people really *think* about it - children just "happen" for most. And probably even more so as you go back in time.

I feel no guilt, generally. When my brother passed away a few years ago, I felt (since I was now the only child) that I was the only chance my parents had for a child of theirs to get married and have grandchildren... But then I remembered it is not my burden in life to live up to other people's expectations of me, or of what they expect life to be like.

I feel it is strange to greatly desire children. I know women who crave children, they want to start families and make babies as soon as they can, and that feels very foreign and strange to me. You could say it is only because the majority of the race breeds that the folks who don't breed are the odd one's out ;) (Obviously!) Of course we need to breed to continue the human race, but I am also of the opinion that it'd be no great tragedy if we eventually died out either. Life just is, the cycle of life will continue and the beauty of nature and the universe will continue whether humans are on planet earth or not. I am content with that situation, because regardless of what form we are in, we are always experiencing...

But I am starting to ramble now :P

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Permalink Reply by Rawgreengoddess on November 14, 2009 at 4:15am

Amanda,feel free to ramble any time around here,loved your experiences,and thank you for sharing..yes well i have always beent eh odd one out,i should be use to it by now,lol..dont feel so odd one out now though...xo

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Permalink Reply by Bianca on November 19, 2009 at 4:19pm

> Sometimes do i think,am i lacking because i havent had a child,and yet i dont have a desire to have a child from my own body.I have no guilt about this,should i,i dont know?

> i know we are all different,and my babies have four legs fur and a tail,and im really happy with this.

And me!!! All of that! I don`t call myself childless, I call it child-free! No desire whatsoever! Just give me plenty cats!

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Permalink Reply by Rawgreengoddess on November 19, 2009 at 4:46pm

ohhh i love this way of thinking Bianca~~thanks for replying babe...

hmm childfree...cool...thats a good way of looking at it
well give me plenty dogs and cats i say....big heart filled with 4 legged babies~~ mwah xxx

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