just a question~
girls,and guys...why is it that some of us as women,seem more biologically 'designed' to bare children than others?
why is it that some women are more driven to be a mother and that is almost their sole purpose in life,and then some women arent fussed nor drawn to wanting to bare children from their own bodies.
Sometimes do i think,am i lacking because i havent had a child,and yet i dont have a desire to have a child from my own body.I have no guilt about this,should i,i dont know?
i know we are all different,and my babies have four legs fur and a tail,and im really happy with this.
I miscarried a child the beginning of 2007.
your thoughts,view etc i would like to hear them please
big love xx
why is it that some women are more driven to be a mother and that is almost their sole purpose in life,and then some women arent fussed nor drawn to wanting to bare children from their own bodies.
Sometimes do i think,am i lacking because i havent had a child,and yet i dont have a desire to have a child from my own body.I have no guilt about this,should i,i dont know?
i know we are all different,and my babies have four legs fur and a tail,and im really happy with this.
I miscarried a child the beginning of 2007.
your thoughts,view etc i would like to hear them please
big love xx
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Permalink Reply by Erin on -
I've never felt the "need" to be a mother. I never even played with baby dolls as a kid. I'll be 32 soon and I'm wondering if my clock will start ticking or not, LOL! Honestly, I don't feel like I'd be incomplete without children.
I don't feel guilty at all (except once in awhile when I think about my parents wanting grand children!) I feel I could really go either way. Thank goodness my husband is on the same page as me!
I've even wondered about the "biologically designed" thing regarding myself. If an hourglass, womanly figure is supposed to indicate fertility, than I don't fit that bill;)
I look at my old boss, who is 59 and has been married 30 years and she is happy without kids. She said she never planned not to have them- she just thought it would happen naturally, but it never did. I also talked to my friend who is 53 and has 2 grown kids she loves and she said she feels like her life would still be complete even if she hadn't had her kids. She lives a very full life. I thought her honesty was rare and refreshing.
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Permalink Reply by Rawgreengoddess on -
Erin thank you for your thought full reply,this is much appreciated.yes it helps when your partner is on the same page,wouldnt work too well otherwise...I also have a friend who is totally fulfilled without a child...i have another who is the same as your 53 year young friend,that she feels that her life would have been just fine without them...
honesty like this is rare and refreshing xx
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Permalink Reply by Danny on -
I don't know but the thought of being a father scares the crap out of me. I hated the way my parents raised me & my lame ass childhood. It took me some time to get over that. I know that there is no how-to books or easy way of raising kids. I know that they did the best they can under their situations. I know I'm not ready for kids & don't want them to be raised the same way I was.
Sometimes do i think,am i lacking because i havent had a child,and yet i dont have a desire to have a child from my own body.I have no guilt about this,should i,i dont know? I think it's one of those things you'll know when the time is just right?
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Permalink Reply by Jef on -
What does a "lame ass" childhood look like? (Just wondering so I can check if I'm on the right track or not! LOL)
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Permalink Reply by Danny on
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It's when you stair out the window & all the kids are out doors having fun & eating ice cream.
*puts on Aiden t-shirt & emo eyeliner*
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Permalink Reply by Rawgreengoddess on
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yar,you kinda put it in a nutshell Danny,i dont feel moved to elaborate either,just to say it was a very lonely sad time mostly for me also...but now,we make up for it yes??!!:)
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Permalink Reply by Jef on
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ARe you two related?
Sorry, I don't want to pry into personal stuff... I hope you can both find healing.
Ok, so if being outside having fun (can we skip the ice cream at least most of the time?) is at least part of a good childhood, then maybe my kids will be ok, since they do that 90% of the time unless they're doing chores or school stuff or eating their brocolli. Thanks for clarifying. :)
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Permalink Reply by Rawgreengoddess on
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im healing well thanks Jef...nah,Danny and i are only related through raw foods ;)
ahh yup no to icecream,for sure...yes to raw foods and yummy green smoothies x
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Permalink Reply by Jef on
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uhh....oh, you mean like banana kale smoothie frozen? Hmmm that could be yum!
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Permalink Reply by Rawgreengoddess on
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ohhhh green sorbet,do tell?thats a newie to me....
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Permalink Reply by Rawgreengoddess on
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ahhh yeh Danny,i hear you on the whole crappy childhood thing,perhaps that is a reason why too for me i have no desire for children??
yeh im just going with the flow too,i guess the same goes for you too,that you will know when the time is right?thanks for replying.xx
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