Ideal Sexual Experience?

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Permalink Reply by John on December 16, 2008 at 12:37am

I have just a slight male perspective to add to this and then I'll butt out. I think there is an inherent difference between males and females, attributed to testo/estro, etc. For example, take this paragraph from a neuro scientist:

The final clip with Dr. Brizendine was shown explaining the difference between male and female brains. All babies begin in the womb with female brains. At about 8 weeks more testosterone flows into baby boys giving them male brains. The hypocampus is larger in female brains which effects memory; which is why women can remember specific emotional event details when men at times don't even remember the event. Women also have a larger anterior cingular cortex which effects worry and causes anxiety in women.

Then add to it this, which I learned in BioChem:
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... research using positron emission tomography (PET) scans has shown that in order for a person to reach orgasm, a primary requirement is to let go of “all fear and anxiety.” Doing so also tends to be relaxing and might explain the tendency to snooze.

Then there is the biochemistry of the orgasm itself. Research shows that during ejaculation, men release a cocktail of brain chemicals, including norepinephrine, serotonin, oxytocin, vasopressin, nitric oxide (NO), and the hormone prolactin. The release of prolactin is linked to the feeling of sexual satisfaction, and it also mediates the “recovery time” that men are well aware of—the time a guy must wait before “giving it another go.” Studies have also shown that men deficient in prolactin have faster recovery times.

Prolactin levels are naturally higher during sleep, and animals injected with the chemical become tired immediately. This suggests a strong link between prolactin and sleep, so it’s likely that the hormone’s release during orgasm causes men to feel sleepy.

Oxytocin and vasopressin, two other chemicals released during orgasm, are also associated with sleep. Their release frequently accompanies that of melatonin, the primary hormone that regulates our body clocks. Oxytocin is also thought to reduce stress levels, which again could lead to relaxation and sleepiness.
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So, ladies, please don't take it personally, there could be a a biochem explanation. Not wanting to start war of the sexes here, just trying to help with some info for thought. And, there is no excuse for a male inattentiveness, but understanding this male phenomenon could make less personal.

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Permalink Reply by Raini on December 16, 2008 at 12:52am

Wow. Thank you so much for this information. Sometimes it's great to get a scientific explanation of what you can't explain. All i know is how i feel, I wrote about it and suggested to the women that maybe that was the reason for the indifference after sex, and your passage validated that in many ways. Please feel no need to "butt out."

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Permalink Reply by AwesomeUniverse!!! on December 16, 2008 at 1:26am

so i guess all men are going to be the same then...hmmm

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Permalink Reply by AwesomeUniverse!!! on December 16, 2008 at 1:25am

thanks john- that is a great answer!

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Permalink Reply by AwesomeUniverse!!! on December 16, 2008 at 6:03pm

After reading this I found out that I didn't ask the question correctly. I guess this is not what I wanted to know and sexual isn't what I was talking about. I was talking about intimacy that transcends sexual, that is more spiritual. But on another level can be felt. "Being Love" just doesn't cut it because as Suvine says guys are just going to perceive "love" as sexual and take advantage of that- unless there is a club out there where the guys who are in it are already "briefed" as to what else is important. Like there should be a entrance exam where they have to walk over burning coal in bare feet to be part of the club.. ok just kidding. But maybe that is what the marriage vows are like for some.

I guess I will have to start another topic but I am not sure what I am asking- so any suggestions or referencses \ u-tube videos would be nice on this subject.

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Permalink Reply by Raini on December 16, 2008 at 6:08pm

I would appreciate it if the word "most" was used before the word guys, when generalizing the whole male population.

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Permalink Reply by AwesomeUniverse!!! on December 16, 2008 at 6:14pm

I haven't really seen any guys here step up to the plate and say they are capable of loving someone beyond the sex act. I think thet that is interesting.

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Permalink Reply by Raini on December 16, 2008 at 6:19pm

Well you have not read my comments then. But no worries.

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Permalink Reply by Raini on December 16, 2008 at 6:28pm

Thank you love. 99% of the guys out there suck, i'm sure of it. I don't take offence when the girls say 100% of them suck, i just ask them to reconsider.

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Permalink Reply by AwesomeUniverse!!! on December 16, 2008 at 6:35pm

Thank you Starfire. How does someone find out where to start with something like that?

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Permalink Reply by Lorianne on December 16, 2008 at 8:53pm

Amen

That's how I 'got' my husband, and be careful what you wish for, I thought it would be swell to want a guy from the north pole, no idea he would actually come that close to that place. My wish had flaws and so there was grief in the process ot getting it. Know what you really want!

Especially when you know that no-thing is outside of you. It's like making your arm move, you bring something to you..

I wanted some money, for no reason so I asked for it. The next morning someone bought 7 pieces from me.

Money like every thing is just an extension of you..

Permalink Reply by Raini on December 16, 2008 at 6:35pm

I know i'm a gemini. I would love to learn more about all of that. I'm very interested in real time and not this nonsense going on accurate as "clockwork." It has to do with my birthdate, and exact time of birth correct?

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