Ideal Sexual Experience?

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Permalink Reply by AwesomeUniverse!!! on December 17, 2008 at 9:02pm

You tell me Raini..

that's what I am asking how do you (or anyone else reading this) define love? I think it's easier for a woman to be in love than a guy because guys can probably barely watch these videos without feeling resentment, while women can watch these videos over and over and think- yeah that's the ideal right there..

what is sending a message of love to you then?

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Permalink Reply by Raini on December 17, 2008 at 9:12pm

I can't count how many paragraphs i have written to you on that exact subject, only recieving a message back from you with the same undertone as the last. I feel that your mind is closed to considering my feelings on the subject. We will have to agree to disagree.

"I think it's easier for a woman to be in love than a guy because guys can probably barely watch these videos without feeling resentment, while women can watch these videos over and over and think- yeah that's the ideal right there"

Whatever it was that a man or many men have done to you to make you say such a thing, please dont make it an excuse to generalize every person with a penis.

Thanks again. :)

Permalink Reply by Raini on December 17, 2008 at 9:28pm

I can agree with you on that asafoetida. I wont engage in kissing like that anymore unless the woman can dig up the courage to make the move, the courage that has been burried 6 feet deep in shit, by men.

Permalink Reply by Raini on December 17, 2008 at 9:37pm

Starfire, your comments make perfect sense, for they are truth. If anything were to end this discussion, it would be that exerpt. Thank you once again.

Permalink Reply by Amanda on December 19, 2008 at 12:01am

Amen to that!!!!!! I thought very silently to myself reading over some of the posts, as woman we have the power within us, nothing outside can echance what is within. Thank you for sharing this Starfire!

Permalink Reply by Raini on December 17, 2008 at 10:39pm

Thank him for me, for you are a treat to talk with. I too have alot to work through, scratch that, alot to breath through.

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Permalink Reply by Raini on December 17, 2008 at 11:22pm

Left brain activators unite!

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Permalink Reply by Rawphi Bird on December 17, 2008 at 8:46pm

whenever i make threads about coconuts or juice or something, i'm lucky to get a handful of responses, i should make all my threads about sex, that would guarantee at least 20 pages of comments

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Permalink Reply by Meditating on December 17, 2008 at 9:20pm

Nothing turns me off like a guy coming onto me in any way, shape or form when he doesn't know me really well. My lovers have all been great but I always had close, platonic friendships with them first and they always treated me well.

I have never met a man, even if I thought he was sexually attractive, that I would think about having sex with absent knowing him really well. If you do, more power to you but my mind and heart don't work that way. My lovers have always been close friends who never tried to come on to me for at least the first 6 months (not that I have a set time line).

You grow to care about each other and then one day you realize it could be more. When you can really trust someone and feel unencumbered by who you are when you are with them, there is an intimacy that always makes the emotional connection and the sex great. I think it is because you developed a closeness that allows the two of you to insulate yourselves inside your own world and you protect each other from everything outside of it.

And if things don't work out and you care enough about each other to remain friends "with benefits," that works too. This is different from knowing some guy just wants you for a piece of ass because the two of you didn't start out that way. It's what Martha Stewart and I would call "a good thing."

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Permalink Reply by Jerry Strong Heart on December 17, 2008 at 9:22pm

I was at a powwow up in maine with my Uncle John/John a Mickmac Elder Council member~*~We met two Wo*men on fri night~*~and made friends~*~Sat morning i walked over to the GrandFather Drum~*~one of the women was standing there~*~I walked up to her and said whats happening cause she had a long face~*~She said Jerry I need a penis they wont let me play the drum without a penis~*~A verry natural statement came out of me~*~I said oh* shit be carefull what you pray for you might get it* Nothing in my life caused me more trouble than my penis~*~I will loan you mine but i don*t recommend it~*~We had this massave laugh~*~I just spoke to her need with out thinking~*~I took her over to Uncle John and said; Uncle the powers that be will not let this woman play the drum without a penis* will you loan her yours i know you dont use it much any more~*~ another huge laugh happened~*~John took her over to the drum used his unfluance and she played the drum and didn*t need a penis~*~When i went back the next year there was an all woman's drum~*~Now the women are playing all over the country an all womans drum~*~Tragedy into commody broke down a wall~*~That old Patriarchial bullshit is brakeing down~*~
When intamcy happens i get intamate with out sex~*~ It is another dimention of love~*~ I am a clitoral masour but that is not sex but a spiritual practice~*~I do kundalini alignment practice that is as intamate~*~And i am a hug therapist~*~That works real well~*~It has a spiritual climax~*~Things are changing~*~Tee Heeee~*~

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Permalink Reply by AwesomeUniverse!!! on December 17, 2008 at 9:54pm

yeah that was really deep.. I still think guys need some u tube videos that will show them how to communicate authentically. Just think if a bunch of raw vegan guys and girls were able to learn and teach this what a better place the world would be. I haven't watched tv in a while but there is a Jewish Rabbi who does marriage and family counseling who is brilliant. He is a hero..

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Permalink Reply by AwesomeUniverse!!! on December 17, 2008 at 10:17pm

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