F%$*#k

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Permalink Reply by Nicole on March 3, 2009 at 6:18am

go back to being a normal frigging human being...Eat Mostly plants, occasional fleshes and go do something with myself so im not miserable to the point where I eat my feelings... I know...
Im a painter.I used to be a dancer, my life used to be incredibly exciting, traveled all over the country and ung out with my friends. Now Im in this relationship with a guy who is soooo amazing but hes anti social, I moved 2000 miles away from all my friends, and he wont allow me to dance. So, I sit here, and I paint, and I search raw forums. That is my entire world. And because I used to be so social and love the night life and energy of traveling and meeting 100 new people every night, not I am miserable. And I have no idea what to do about it. If you have suggestions be my guest cuz I just dont know what to do.

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Permalink Reply by Nicole on March 3, 2009 at 2:02pm

Hey, I dont know if this was clear or not, or if it even makes a difference...but I was a stripper dancer...I dont know if that makes him any less of a control freak...

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Permalink Reply by Susan Virginia on March 3, 2009 at 2:15pm

If you enjoy an activity and he requires you to give it up in order to be with him, yes that makes him a control freak.
If, on the other hand, you decided to give it up on your own, that's another story.

I'd not be with a man who could not accept what I do for a living and be happy for me.


How passionate are you about dancing?

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Permalink Reply by Nicole on March 3, 2009 at 2:23pm

It is just fun...I got to express myself sexually (which I dont in this relationship:O) I got to play dress up, got to meet people and be in bizzarre and fun sitiuations, and the money was killer, so I also miss the independance it allowed me. OH YA and my butt was OUT OF THIS WORLD from waling around in 7 inch heels every night :) Theres a ton of bad things about it too though.
I gave it up because I knew I couldnt have a relationship and be a dancer... so maybe thats my real problem. Perhaps I should just go be a dancer for a few years save all my $, paint my little heart out in the daylight hours and forget about realationships for awhile

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Permalink Reply by Susan Virginia on March 3, 2009 at 2:34pm

Well it does seem as tho this relationship isn't working for you... so yes, maybe you should do just that, be happy, focus on yourself & what you want out of life for a while...

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Permalink Reply by Nicole on March 3, 2009 at 3:48pm

i think hes trying to protect me and all that ...but i just feel like im too young for all this or something lol
oh and its the squats.heels COMBO that does it!! its like doing calf raises & squats simulaneously :D

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Permalink Reply by Nicole on March 3, 2009 at 6:23am

OH YA and I forgot to mention that having a connection with ones spirit and energy of the universe is a billion times more imprtant than what you put into your body.
And Im way out of touch. wow i think im seriously going to go cry, but wait i probly need that sodium to balance out my f&*Ed up bowels.
sorry.

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Permalink Reply by Nell on March 3, 2009 at 8:34am

Relationships are about communication and balance. If that fails and you can't find that balance for both of you, you may have to look for something else. Do what is best for you. Think ahead and not for just the moment. Where do you want to be in one year? Five years? Ten years? And how are you gonna get there?

And as for food, when I crave a bloody steak, I eat it. Yum.

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Permalink Reply by Meadow on March 3, 2009 at 6:31am

You are ruining your life and making yourself miserable - for what? Young girls in Australia believe in having fun with their girlfriends, being free and independent, travelling the WORLD, not being obsessed with having a "relationship" at every moment of their liuevs as if they can't bear to be alone with themselves or have to have a "man" to feel validated.

For a start - WHO says you have to BE in a "relationship"? You REALLY should know that there is NOT just one "perfect" lifetime partner or "THE one" - good research based on personality types and genuine successful long-term relationships (that means 50 years, NOT 5 years!), has estimated that for each person there are at LEAST 100 "perfect" lifetime partners in the world.

What are the chances that some random guy you've met and fallen in lust with, is one of those 100? Quite unlikely! On the other hand, even if he IS one of the 100, there are 99 others out there and any of those 99, if you happen to meet them, might be abel to makle you truly happy ONE day - not now, what's the rush! - without you sacrificing a life you love.

Dump the guy, travel the world, have fun with your girlfriends, don't waste your life for a "relationship", and LIVE!

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Permalink Reply by Nicole on March 3, 2009 at 6:33am

I love you.

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Permalink Reply by jason on March 3, 2009 at 7:37am

We reap what we sow. I don't think the colonic had much to do with making you ill, that was removing stuff. You need to focus on the "In" door.

Quick question - How does drinking wine and eating chocolate make you done with raw foods? From what you listed above you haven't really eaten any...

Make sure when you sacrifice Bessy to entomb her in your gut for a few days you choose a cow that is not tainted, for your health : )

Peace

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Permalink Reply by Martbook on March 3, 2009 at 7:58am

All our outer lives are a reflection of what is going on inside of ourselves. You wrote: "he won't allow me to dance."

Your whole post screamed of wanting to giving yourself permission to do what feels right for you, in dancing, in eating, etc.

You may learn to allow yourself to do what you want to do. Start right now.

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