Dating..married..?

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Permalink Reply by Clement on October 31, 2008 at 8:19am

Love the toxins part :D That's true, you know I want to be the first to possibly post - since I've started eating better foods I have no need for underarm deodorant! WooohOOOO! Take that Axe/Lynx.

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Permalink Reply by Suzie- Smoothie on October 31, 2008 at 8:37am

oh! I so agree with all you ve said Mica! 100% (:

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Permalink Reply by LOVEBUG on October 31, 2008 at 8:41am

mica...i'm right there with ya girl. 100% agreed. =)

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Permalink Reply by Jason on October 31, 2008 at 12:52pm

does anyone else feel since adopting a more conscious lifestyle less of a need for a mate?


I would definitely say so. I feel like one of the reasons I used to stay in a relationship, whether consciously or not, is social expectations. Earlier on in college, I used to enjoy being the cool guy with the hot girlfriend, but social conventions no longer interest me. Instead of trying to fit the social norm, I try to satisfy MYSELF at this point. Before I was eating healthy and living a healthy lifestyle, there was an emptiness in me. As if I was waiting for something that would never come. Now that I'm on the right track, it's clear that it is up to me to create my future. I feel much more in control of my life. I'm sure the fact that I no longer have brain fog 24 hours a day from digesting carbs has something to do with it.
Bottom line, if I meet someone that's a positive influence in my life, that's awesome. If not, that's ok too, I'm very young and have my whole life ahead of me. I expect to end up in the pacific NW anyway.

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Permalink Reply by LOVEBUG on October 31, 2008 at 1:01pm

i can relate jason.
i have broken up with my bf of almost 4 years a few months ago. we had broken up once before, i had my fun during the summer...but once fall/winter came around i became lonely and wanted him back. i was almost expecting the same thing to happen this time around, but it didnt. not one bit. i love him dearly but don't feel our situation together was good for my life right now. in the most unselfish way, i am completely focused on my life right now and it feels amazing. completely different from my younger days of saying "i just want to be single right now!" ...thinking i was actually happy but always ended up lonely. nowadays, lonely aint so bad =)....its almost like a complete shift in consciousness...priorities change, your focus changes, and i find i'm also more at peace with life. i can actually be his friend right now and all he wants is to have me back as his girlfriend and won't have it any other way.

i feel lucky to have had a change affect me in this way.

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Permalink Reply by Jason on October 31, 2008 at 3:31pm

I think its great that you're completely focused on YOUR life. I know what its like to drag out a relationship. The last serious one I was in I was with a girl for 2 and a half years and just as you said, I felt like I loved her, but we didn't necessarily gain by being together. Every time I saw her after we initially broke up, which was a lot, the physical attraction was totally there, but there was nothing more. We both found it difficult to spend time together without being physical, so I knew it wasn't meant to be. At this point I wouldn't get into a serious relationship with someone unless we actually had a true connection as opposed to a simple male-female attraction.
I think its really important to have something in common. That's why all of the people on GI2MR get along so well. We share a common bond in food.

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Permalink Reply by Amanda on October 31, 2008 at 5:08pm

Jason this reminds me of my last relationship, we used our amazing physically connection to make everything better. and it did for a while, then we we're back to where we started. It was so strange, we had amazing physical connection, but the emotional I just felt like I was living out my childhood.

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Permalink Reply by Suzie- Smoothie on October 31, 2008 at 1:57pm

Yes Jason, even tho I am not in my twenties I still dont have an desperate need to be with someone...I have so much else going on in my life i feel Iam living..I think when you are really living your life you will meet someone when you least expect it..its an energetic thing!? So like minded energy will attract like mind and heart n soul(:

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Permalink Reply by Ian on October 31, 2008 at 6:59pm

does anyone else feel since adopting a more conscious lifestyle less of a need for a mate?

Absolutely!! As LOVEBUG stated so well, lonely isn't so bad, and "empty" doesn't even fit into the picture. Every 60 minutes that I spend catering to another's needs, is 1 hour that I do not spend catering to my own.

And this may sound selfish, but quite frankly, it has to be. No one else cares about those precious 60 minutes spent on myself better than I do.

And every time I meet someone that I may find a reason to date, I always hark back to a wise saying from a former engineer that I used to work with:

"No matter how nice she is, or how good looking she may be .... there's at least 1 person out there who's tried of putting up with her shit"

:-)

A tiny dose of cynicism each day doesn't really hurt too badly, does it?

Ian

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Permalink Reply by telefunken on October 31, 2008 at 10:42am

Mica, May I please hug your mind ?! : )

And,

Will I ever tire of praising you? (just keep writing and we'll find out....)

----tele

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Permalink Reply by Dee on October 31, 2008 at 9:29am

I would like to meet a UK based raw man. I personally believe that raw and non raw people can not work in the long-term- different energies and different values.

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Permalink Reply by Suzie- Smoothie on October 31, 2008 at 1:55pm

Hi Dee
I met one or two at Metamorphosis! Its good to mingle at these events..and iam sorry I missed the Day of Life Fest (:

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