Dating..married..?

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Permalink Reply by Asafoetida on October 30, 2008 at 9:03pm

It's a great way to introduce others to it, and to learn flexibility and understanding (on our end). But honestly, I feel like I wouldn't date a guy that wasn't even vegetarian unless I felt a really strong pull. Basic cooked lacto-ovo seems so basic to me by now, I'm not really interested in a guy my age that hasn't gone that far.

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Permalink Reply by RAW is the LAW on October 30, 2008 at 9:12pm

I wouldnt bother with a non-raw or non vegan girl? now, Ive spent so long adjusting myself to the right way of LIVING, I dont think Id be happy with them, and would want to change them for the better, although that might be quite easy with my culinary skills !
Why dya think Im on here so much ; )
Eating is one of the most intimate things we do, so would be nice to share our food. Im sick of feeling segregated as it is, plus I want to be with someone who understands and supports me!
Still being raw vegan isnt enough by a long shot, there was a thread about that before. Not enough on its own, for sure. No chemistry - no go!

blessed love

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Permalink Reply by Jason on October 30, 2008 at 9:50pm

Very good point. Eating is one of the true satisfactions we have in our lives, and it would be sad to not be able to share that with the one you love.

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Permalink Reply by Amanda on October 30, 2008 at 10:31pm

Good point I'm not much of a converter either

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Permalink Reply by Ian on October 30, 2008 at 9:19pm

I am attracted to women in general, for reasons so various and complex, that I will probably never be able to explain it. What's even more frustrating is that I know, for a fact, that I could never funnel this attraction into something such as food choices. In the past 3 years of my 100% raw journey, my dating spreadsheet would look like the following:

1 raw vegan
1 vegetarian
1 former vegan
3 omnivores (no desire to be vegetarian)

I ended up pursuing sexual encounters with 1 omnivore and the raw vegan. Sex with the omnivore was better than most, but there were definite personality conflicts that led to us growing apart after only a few short months. She was a Mormon as well, but that had little impact on our differences. She had 2 children, and we seemed headed in 2 different directions intellectually and spiritually (long story on that one)

The sex with the raw vegan was some of the most amazing encounters that I have had in recent memory. I would literally get shivers thinking about the connections we made, something that would playback over in my head hours after the fireworks had long reached its zenith. Can't remember too many women that I've felt like that around. We had quality time we spent in the kitchen together, hosting raw potlucks, building a raw community in Jacksonville from virtually nothing to start with.

But that is where our commonalities ended, really. We had communication issues (which usually sinks many relationships) and no matter how many times I thought I conveyed myself and my needs to her, they ended up getting ignored or brushed away like they didn't matter. Of course, she came to this realization of my needs after we broke up, which really didn't do us any good. And truth be told, we are creatures of habit, and I am not sure if any of this would have changed had I hung on.

I've actually spent more time single than attached in these past 3 years, and I am quite OK with that. When my former students stop by my office to see me, and they find out that I really am this introverted bookworm who would rather be single and reading in a park by myself, they are usually shocked by the notion. Which is fine. I do not believe a woman should be in my life to "complete" or "fill in" missing pieces of me, but instead add to what base is already present.

But ... if ever the time approaches when I find someone who is more fun to be with than it is for me to be by myself, I will gladly take on the opportunity, regardless of their diet. I believe I gravitate towards "passionate" women, and this is a more important feature to me (like raw vegan girl above, who was an ardent believer in the raw food path). The rest can be ironed out in some way, shape, or form. And besides ... men in the raw community are so rare (like an 80/20 ratio) that it becomes an endless sea of raw women to choose from if I really wanted to pursue someone for their chewy rawness. The odds are in my favor, ladies. hahahaha.

Great questions, btw!

Ian

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Permalink Reply by Amanda on October 30, 2008 at 10:33pm

check out the site girl theres plenty!! :)

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Permalink Reply by LOVEBUG on October 30, 2008 at 9:55pm

i would see a guy with different diet choices. i could never seriously date one though.
the thought of going out to dinner with my boyfriend and watching him eat a burger or a steak makes me wanna vom.
hence why i intend on remaining single for a long time. freeeeeeeeedommmmm! :)

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Permalink Reply by Ian on October 30, 2008 at 10:10pm

hence why i intend on remaining single for a long time. freeeeeeeeedommmmm! :)

Amen to that one!!

Ian

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Permalink Reply by LOVEBUG on October 30, 2008 at 10:33pm

=)

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Permalink Reply by Amanda on October 30, 2008 at 10:41pm

Whose been with a raw vegan guy??? Or girl???

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Permalink Reply by jason on October 30, 2008 at 10:42pm

I have. Its wonderful - girl.

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Permalink Reply by Amanda on October 30, 2008 at 10:59pm

Me too.. a guy. It is amazing!

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