Intimacy and Being Raw... Adults only!

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Permalink Reply by Matt on January 23, 2008 at 2:43am

Anything that affects energy levels positively is going to affect your sex life. Inasfar as drive - you really need to find ways to produce more testosterone.

The best ways to increase sex drive is to increase your testosterone levels. How do you do this?

1) Increase your Omega 3 fatty acid, and cholesterol intake. These are the building blocks for testosterone. Excellent sources of these are nuts, avocados and raw milk. The other thing is beef, but that's because they inject our beef cows with testosterone. We don't eat a lot of that though, so just give up on the beef and focus on the other items.

2) Avoid estrogen foods, like soy and anything high in saturated fats. Also, complex carbohydrates and starches from all that stuff we're probably not eating anyway - potatoes, breads and pasta. The other thing is conventionally grown chicken - they feed it a diet of estrogen or foods that help them produce estrogen so that they will be bigger. Basically we're in the clear for the mostpart. Us raw foodies aren't eating many of those items, other than soy (I hate soy and avoid it, with the exception of soy sauce), so we're in the clear.

3) Start working out. Nothing intense, but there should be balance of cardiovascular (you want to have stamina, right) and weight training.

4) Avoid hormone treatments (particularly testosterone) if you can. Women going through menopause should be particularly careful to balance their sex drive diet (everything here) with their menopause diet (all the stuff on the estrogen list) and not take their health for granted, ignoring the production of estrogen for a higher sex drive. Estrogen is important for the balance of a woman's body chemistry and not enough can lead to osteoporosis and other ailments.

5) Start having sex. Every time you have sex, the male produces some testosterone and some of it gets deposited in the female (increasing her sex drive a little). The important part here is "some of it" - not all of it goes to the female, so you have a higher testosterone level, thus a higher sex drive.

Note: too high of testosterone levels can also cause physical and psychological issues. Don't assume that your hormone levels are perfect just because you are on a raw diet, if you are having personality changes, consider what you're putting into your body and what changes they are having on you.

Those are the things that I was able to discover in 15 minutes of research, combined with what I already knew :)

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Permalink Reply by Anthony on January 23, 2008 at 3:48am

When I did massive amounts of greens and fruit with very little fat, my sex drive completely went away. I was in total monk-mode...completely separated from the "animal" desires. Add in some superfoods and some nuts and seeds and the drive comes back...but its nothing like a horny meat/junk food-eater...a little more evolved I would say. It becomes more about forming friendships with the opposite sex, not always trying to "score". Anyone experience something like this?

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Permalink Reply by Matt on January 23, 2008 at 4:10am

As a middle-aged man (37 years old), that has been an issue. Stress and low self-esteem completely destroyed my sex drive and made it actually difficult to 'get there' (minor levels of impotence) for the better part of a year. Eating foods that help my body make testosterone and working out regularly are definitely things that are high on my list - I'm married and sex is important to both my wife and I, without a sex drive, my marriage (and happiness) would eventually be in jeopardy.

Inasfar as whether it's evolved or not? I don't know, having known many people who are gender dysphoric and going through sex reassignment, I think of lower sex drive as being more female, not more evolved. Sex drive is dependent upon testosterone (even in women), so I guess men are less likely to be 'evolved' than women by the determinator of how relationships are developed, by the strange misfortune of one chromosome having been Y instead of an X.

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Permalink Reply by Rawvelous on January 23, 2008 at 5:12pm

Just a note... 37 is NOT middle aged! ! ! ! ! !

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Permalink Reply by Jef on January 23, 2008 at 8:28pm

No Kidding, I'm 37 and I'm just getting started!!!!

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Permalink Reply by Delaina on January 25, 2008 at 9:21am

I AGREE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Permalink Reply by Matt on January 24, 2008 at 8:51pm

Chicken is bad for testosterone production, as most chickens nowadays are packed with estrogen, unless you can get Amish or free range chicken.

Anything that has high levels of Omega-3 fatty acids and cholesterol (the good stuff).

Here's a list of Omega-3 fatty acid foods:

Flaxseeds
Walnuts
Salmon, chinook
Oregano, dried, ground
Cloves, dried, ground
Cauliflower
Mustard seeds
Cabbage
Romaine lettuce
Broccoli
Brussel sprouts
Winter squash
Summer squash
Halibut
Collard greens
Spinach
Kale
Shrimp
Turnip greens
Cod
Strawberries
Green beans
Snapper
Scallops
Tuna, yellowfin
Raspberries

Here's a list of HDL cholesterol foods:

fish
red wine
orange juice
beans
canola / olive oil
oat bran
onions
apples
grapes
citrus fruits
legumes
salmon
avocado
garlic
spinach
nuts (Walnuts, Cashews, and Almonds)
tea
dark chocolate

I trimmed some items out of the list that are on the bad foods list or just basically not good for anyone's diet (non-fermented soy products). Fortunately for you, a lot of the foods are on both lists :)

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Permalink Reply by Delaina on January 25, 2008 at 9:25am

You totally forgot to mention RAW cacao--one of the highest in all the goodies and maca, and incan root that will definately get your heat up! Check out shazzie.com-- some herbals have very potent sexual properties. i don't think testosterone is the answer, but i know what yohimbe and horny goat weed can do!!

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Permalink Reply by Matt on January 25, 2008 at 12:52pm

I'm just trying to address those things that will give your body what it needs most to produce testosterone (HDL cholesterol and Omega 3 fatty acids). They do mention "Dark chocolate" on the HDL cholesterol list, which I usually read dark chocolate to mean "Raw chocolate" (or I do since I read shazzie's book about raw chocolate). :) As for Maca and Incan Root I have no idea about their effects on the body's chemistry - I'm trying to be very conservative in my advice :)

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Permalink Reply by Grunde on April 1, 2008 at 3:57am

you can make chokolate raw white if you like... with the butter, maybe added maca.. raw is the uncooked prosessing....

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Permalink Reply by Matt on January 24, 2008 at 8:54pm

But I like making the decision to have sex. :)

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Permalink Reply by shannonmarie on January 23, 2008 at 6:51am

I agree about the superfoods and nuts. My sex drive goes up with a little maca, some goji berries and raw cacao. My hubby can always tell when I consume those.

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